My automatic response would be hell yes it is a problem. In general, I’m not cool with people just coming and going with out giving a reason or without regard to my feelings. That’s selfish and rude. But then I think about what has occurred in the past and what lies in my future. There have been numerous times where I’ve let people in my life for weeks or months at a time to have them disappear because they didn’t wanna deal with their feelings or some other reason unknown to me. The first few weeks are usually hard to get through without being angry or bitter, depending on how interested I was in the person. But after a while, I let go and keep it moving. I’m not scarred or bitter towards the person, no need to waste energy on something you can’t do anything about. 9 times out of 10 if they come back around, things pick up right were they left off...sometimes. At this point in my life I don’t wanna get attached to anyone that I meet because I won’t be here for long. So again I ask, is it really that bad to keep letting some one back in your life even though you know they’re not going to stick around? If you have a true connection with this person and genuinely like them, outside of their disappearing act, what’s the harm in keeping them around for company?
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just stumbled upon your blog...im a fellow budding black female scientist....not queer but one of those humans who sees it as simply of variation of sexuality..like my being heterosexual is a variation..lol it is weird to type all that:-)
to answer the question..the only thing about it that bothers is the person feeling like they always have an "in" and can leave whenever...which to me is implying that their feelings are bigger and higher than mine...not cool and not a sentiment I want someone I share my space/life/time with to be feeling where I am concerned....of course this is an assumption...i think if too parties are clear about what is going on...then why not enjoy the company when you have it...as long as its not a problem for you. Im not there yet
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